Be like the river

Sometimes all  you can do, is not to
dream, expect or obsess.
All you can do, is go with the flow,
And hope for the best.

Going with the flow....

Finding work-life balance is like juggling responsibilities. As long as you keep doing it, nobody cares. Once you stop, it all comes crashing down. And you are the only one to be blamed. You chose to live life that way!

  I often wonder, is there such a thing as the perfect balance, the perfect woman, the perfect family, the perfect food,or the perfect relationship?

Maybe in some fairytale.  But real life is not a bed of roses but a soap opera. Everything changes. The key to survival is 'going with the flow'.

Priorities change daily and as full time working mothers, you have to flow through the demands and challenges as best we can. It won't ever be perfect. And it won't ever be balanced. However, if you are flexible and let things flow as they need to, you won't be worked up over ensuring everything is perfect.

'There are times when my kids or husband take full priority and I have to take care of them while work has to wait. Then there are other times that work is priority - whether it's a big project, meetings or travel, that's what comes first. And there are times that friends or extended family need my help. Balance really doesn't fit any of these scenarios....

 At times, I think I have nailed it and I'm doing really well in all areas. However, there are other times that I feel I haven't spent enough meaningful time with my kids or my husband and I'm falling behind at work. There have also been times that I have felt I haven't been there for my extended family or friends the way that I should be. The constant stress of balancing all of the above can certainly take a toll..' 

Be like the river.

Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook, wrote in her book Lean In:

“Trying to do it all and expecting that it all can be done exactly right is a recipe for disappointment. Perfection is the enemy.”

Discussions or documentations? The way forward.

Discussions or documentations
Surveys suggest that time constraints push doctors to spend less time with the patient and more time documenting records. Important as documentation may be, it ends up with a waste of unnecessary investigations that could have been avoided had the doctor spent more time with the patient; taking a detailed history and doing a thorough examination. Many times we have been forced to look for Malarial parasites in smears from afebrile patients, or do bone marrow aspirations of thrombocytopenic patients (with low platelet counts) only to find platelet clumps on peripheral smears.
Have you ever done an investigation that you thought was unnecessary?

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